How Love Dies: The Psychology of Cheating & Attraction - Esther Perel - #986

Aug 28, 2025 · 1h 24m

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist, podcaster, and New York Times bestselling author. Why do modern relationships feel so difficult? Even the happiest couples on the outside often hide unspoken rules and silent expectations that slowly erode intimacy. Resentment grows, trust fractures, and love feels harder to sustain. So how can men and women build partnerships that endure in today’s ever-changing world? Expect to learn what the “Mankeeping” trend is that is going on with women right now, how women can support emotional openness in men without mothering or emasculating them, why there is an adversarial and tribal dynamic between men and women in the modern world, why women get bored with monogamy more quickly than men, if companies should rethink their approach to workplace romance and much more… Timestamps: (0:00) Red Flags Don’t Look Like Red Flags Through Rose Coloured Glasses (6:57) Why We Should Avoid Polarising Attachment Discourse (12:12) The Difficulties Behind Male Friendships (20:23) What is Driving Male Loneliness? (37:53) What is Pushing Men and Women Apart? (44:39) The Growing Separation of Societal Groups (50:47) Why Do We Cheat? (55:28) What are the Early Signs of De…

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